Monday, August 6, 2012


Does one person deserve to be a parent more than another? I mean, aside from someone who has committed crimes against children and things like that, does someones struggle make them more deserving than someone else?

Only God can answer why some people are unable to have children. He is the only one who can decide. I often struggle with the fact that SO many people have children and choose to neglect them, while there are millions of people out there struggling with infertility, that would do anything to have and protect a child.

From Rebecca at Simple As That

Then we have Ali. She's never "struggled" with infertility. She's never even tried to get pregnant. Yet, she can't carry a pregnancy without risking her own life. Does the fact that she hasn't suffered from multiple miscarriages and IVF attempts make her any less deserving of this surrogacy? I don't think it does. I think she is incredibly blessed to have found out before it was too late. Had she attempted a pregnancy before making sure it was safe, she may not be here right now. She is blessed to have not had to suffer the loss of a pregnancy. She is blessed to have not had to exhaust all their resources attempting IVF and failing.

That being said, why does she feel guilty asking for help in paying for the surrogacy? Would it be great if they had the money on their own? Of course! It would be fabulous. But, they just found out last year that a pregnancy wasn't possible. That hasn't allowed much time for saving up. They also survive off of a single, military income. Everyone knows that military paychecks don't leave much room for savings. So to expect them to be able to afford a $40,000ish IVF process would be insane. No one likes asking for help and Ali is really struggling with it.

In my opinion, she has every right to ask for help. She deserves to have her dreams of being a mother come true, just like all those women out there who have been struggling with infertility for years. Now, if only I could get her to see just how deserving she is.


  1. I love you Caryn... We have not even met, but I love you and your heart. I am so thankful for you and your giving, loving, caring heart and that it came into Ali's life at just the right time. thank you.

  2. So glad that you wrote this post.. I might do one of my own. I wish that Ali would know that she is just as deserving as any other woman out there.